Stop Sabotaging yourself
One of the biggest flaws and obstacles when dealing with a crisis of confidence is self-sabotage. Many of us make our own worst nightmares true simply through a lack of belief in the skills we possess.
To stop sabotaging yourself, you need to understand that you are the cause of such problems – and that this needs to be worked upon.
Don’t worry, you are not the first person and you will not be the last to be stuck in this precarious position.
Making this Work
To make this mindset work, it takes refinement in the way you think. Self-sabotage usually comes from the idea that we always cause our own problems or that we put ourselves in precarious
situations due to a lack of talent.
To avoid self-sabotage, you need to also get to grips with the idea of self-confidence. Nobody is going to be a success in life if they spend all of their time doubting the abilities they possess. Instead,
you need to slowly but surely look into the problems you face.
The first step in breaking the cycle of this self-sabotaging behaviour is to make a list of your negative thoughts. Whenever you have a negative thought, write it down. Now that you are aware of what your negative thoughts are, look at the rationale behind them.
Find out why you engage in such a behaviour – is it because of a previous failure? May it be because you have not had someone to encourage you? – why is it that you are so critical of yourself is what you require to figure out.
You must develop a self-supportive behaviour from that. Put your efforts in building your confidence. Set smaller goals if necessary and achieve them in order to unconsciously develop your self-belief and disengage from self-sabotaging.
Set a goal related to something you really want to achieve. Think about what you would do to achieve it in an ideal situation and let fear not hold you back. Ignore the critical voice inside you and move ahead.
This will allow you to be more realistic and compassionate towards yourself. Once you have achieved one small goal, you will know how good it feels to achieve it and how uncalled for it was to not try to do it all this while. You will have more self-esteem and be more resilient emotionally.
You will have a new-found love for life and most importantly yourself, and will be able to break free from walls of the mundane life you have built for yourself. You will be able to better cope with
any anxiety that arises.
Simply put, now that there is no more you stopping yourself, you will be on your path to success. And this is only the beginning.