As we age and as we grow wiser and more interested in certain parts of the world, we tend to see massive differences in how we act. The way that you think about, for example, politics as a young teenager is likely to differ from what you think as a parent trying to raise a family. Priorities shift, our social standings shift with them and – while many don’t like to admit it – so do our entire moral viewpoints.
Meet someone who was down and out when you were children, who is a wealth and qualified success today, and you would barely recognize them. They likely hold new beliefs, new ideals and a whole new set of lifestyle philosophies to live by. By all intents and purposes, they are totally different from the people that they once were. This makes it harder, then, for us to keep one fluid set of beliefs throughout our life. So, how does our social and personality development over the years help to shape the world we live in?
When growing up, the things we tend to find most interesting can help to shape our social group. For example, if you desire to be a sports star then you will likely kick around with people with a similar passion and aim. You’ll all develop similar likes and interests, and probably get involed in activities as a group. The same goes if you are on the other end of the spectrum, and want to be involved in the world of gaming. You’ll stick with people who see a similar – yet not identical – view of the world.
Enough for there to be a connection, not enough for it to be boring and always agreeing. Social interests, though, can help to drive the entire future that we build for ourselves. If you are interested in certain things in school and your social circle revolves around that, it might eventually be the same place where your professional circle will hail from.
The interests that we hold in a social circle tends to develop our own social ideals, too. it helps to determine things like our moral red lines – what we find acceptable and what we find terrible – and it also helps to determine the kind of people we tend to spend our time around. If you grow up in a group of people who enjoy self-deprecation as humor, for example, you tend to be a thick skinned individual who finds it hard to be around those who are easily offended.
The people we spend our time around, and the interests we hold, go a very long way to shaping our entire personalities.
Upbringing and Comfort
A major issue that you can find yourself dealing with, however, is the challenge of where you grew up. If you grow up in a well-off, successful household in a very comfortable area then you will likely have trouble emphasizing with people “below” you on the ladder. That’s not a criticism, but just a part of the process. In the same way, those who grow up in depressed areas with minimal chance for success and social development will have little interest or care for those higher up the ladder. This greatly defines whether you grow with an abundance or scarcity mentality.
Where we come from determines our interests, our aspirations and our very social structures. What we find funny and what we find reprehensible can change depending on what we seen growing up. If you grew up and seen much violence and moral damage, then you will likely find that when you see it on the news or in the adult world it is less worrying or damaging to you.
Grow up in a comfortable, cozy community where nothing goes wrong, though, and you can be severely shocked by something that is actually pretty minimal.
This is a major part of the process that many people can struggle to understand. It becomes very hard to have a balanced view on the world because of the splitting of society. You need to come from the perfect storm to be able to emphasize and understand all parties – it takes a very lucky set of circumstances to feel this way.
So, our personalities develop according to the people we spend time with and the location that we grow up in. This determines how we handle things like abuse and trauma, and also helps to shape how we give ourselves determination and ambition to fuel our lives with.
The society we live in determines so much about our lives. While outliers exist, the vast majority of us are a product of our environment.